Managing Traumatic Stress and Combat PTSD Through The R-E-C-O-V-E-R Approach*
INTRODUCTION TO THE R-E-C-O-V-E-R APPROACH TO PTSD
Let's Have An Honest Relationship With Each Other: If you are one of our readers, we want to be in a relationship with you that is, above all, honest. Honesty is, in fact the reason that we will never tell you that our book ("I Always Sit With My Back To The Wall"), or this website is a cure-all, or a magic bullet against PTSD. Quite frankly, we believe that neither of those things exist. People who claim that they do are often trying to exploit those who are suffering. What we hope to provide you is something else. We are committed to provide you, every day, with the resources you need to regain EMPOWERMENT, and its offspring, HOPE. They are, in our opinion, more powerful than non-existent magic, because they are REAL, as well as ATTAINABLE.
There Is More To Recovery Than "Cure": Both Dr. Croft and I have worked with thousands of people who have suffered from trauma of many kinds. We know that many of them, before coming to see one or the other of us, have avoided seeking the help they needed. That is often because they were told that what they "needed" was to be "cured", and the thought of seeking a "cure" for PTSD seemed impossible, overwhelming, or both. Our approach is entirely different. We DON'T believe that a person must aim for "cure" in order to experience real and lasting changes that will make his/her life (and a whole family's life) significantly better, and well worth living. Instead, we believe that the first and most important thing that a PTSD sufferer can search for and obtain is PTSD MANAGEMENT. And we know from experience that simply making the shift from an uncontrolled condition to a managed condition can feel like the difference between night and day. It can mean the difference between a life not worth living, and a life in which you can once again experience love, joy and meaning.
Aim For the "Elemental Solution": So why do we aim for small shifts, instead of giant leaps? Because we know that, in general, small shifts are more effective, more lasting and DO-ABLE. Nothing that is "fancy" or "giant" will provide you with a solution if you cannot DO IT. We prefer to opt for solutions that "stick", because they are simple, or elemental. Sort of like the things we learn to do as kids and never forget. We explain in our book, "I Always Sit With My Back To The Wall," that even small changes in your approach to traumatic stress can, over time and distance, result in major shifts in life's outcome.
Here is an example: "If you always go where you've always gone, you'll always get what you've always gotten," the saying goes. If you stand with your feet together and take two steps forward, you already know where you will wind up. Take two steps back and you will return to the point of beginning and nothing whatsoever will have changed for the better. If, however, you leave your heels in place, and simply rotate your toes even a couple of inches to the right or left before walking forward, you will, after a few steps find yourself in a VERY different place. The more steps you take, the more you will see the shift that is taking place. TRY IT - you'll see ! Small changes in direction magnify over time and distance. It is as true in life as it is in geometry. Those couple of inches of change are not only do-able by almost everyone, but they may spell the difference between a life spent embracing the suck, and one that is truly worth living. We'd like to see you have the latter.
To R-E-C-O-V-E-R Is Better Than Just Embracing The Suck: To help you attain management of your PTSD, we have devised a simple system that is straightforward and do-able for just about anyone. We call it the R-E-C-O-V-E-R © approach to PTSD management. It is not a cure-all. It is not a magic bullet. But it can change your life. It is, quite simply, an approach to living when the world has thrown you dangerous or threatening curve balls. It is about refusing to accept the assumption that life with PTSD cannot be better than "bad". Because, in our view, "bad" is never "good enough."
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